The president was walking with his wife when they see one of her ex-boyfriends in a less than appealing occupation. The president says,"If you hadn't married me, you might be married to that guy." The first lady replies, "If I had married him, he'd be president."
You've heard the saying, behind every man is a good woman, right? Do you believe that's true? Do you believe that as a wife your called to stand by your husband and motivate him on to greatness? The bible says this about the Proverbs 31 Woman:
"Her husband is known in the gates
when he sits among the elders of the land."
-Prov. 31:23
Her husband is known because of his wife! People know and respect him in part because he has such a strong, encouraging, and trustworthy wife. She cares about his reputation and seeks to build him up rather than tear him down.
Not all men are destined to be the president, but God does have a specific plan for our husbands that we as wives play a crucial role in either hindering or helping. Just imagine what your husband could accomplish for God's kingdom with all of your love and support!
Here are some practical ways you can start motivating your man to be all that God has created him to be:
Pray for Him. We as women tend to be nags, when we don't feel our husbands are acting quite right. But, what if we quit nagging and started praying. What if we started telling God our hopes and dreams about what we want our husbands to become. Can you imagine the awesome way God would begin to work in our husbands lives?
Believe in Him. As wives we have a huge influence over our husbands confidence level. We have to believe in them and be their biggest cheerleaders. If a man knows that his wife believes in him then he begins to feel that he can do anything! The opposite is also true, if a man thinks his wife doesn't believe in him or respect him then his confidence level goes wayyy down. Believe in the amazing man of God that he is or will come to be!
Dream with Him. God put lots of talent and aspiration into our men and we need to let them be free to dream and really believe that they can fulfill those dreams without bringing them down. We need give our men the freedom to dream about what they can accomplish with God's help.
Respect Him. All men need and desire respect, especially from their wives. We need to respect their knowledge and abilities. If a man thinks his wife doesn't respect him that's like a wife feeling like his husband doesn't love her. MEN NEED RESPECT!!
What would you add to the list?
Do you have any advice about motivating your man?
Thank you for this post. I am bookmarking it so I can find it again when I need to re-read it.
ReplyDeleteGood reminder. Thank you:)
ReplyDeleteThis is insightful and so true, Missy! Thanks for encouraging us in this noble calling!!
ReplyDeleteA couple to add to your inspiring list:
Surprise Him (with lots of love in lots of ways!)
Forgive Him (give him grace as we want our husbands to give us grace)
Submit to Him (submission to each other and respecting him as spiritual leader)
Now to actually live these out daily...hourly!!! =) I really need to copy this list down and keep it in a frequented place.
Have a great weekend!
Katie
I think this is a wonderful list and topic, Missy. I guess the only thing I'd add is "play with him" and that includes in the bedroom. I think that helps to build the connection and friendship for both of you and the sense that he is loved and desired for him. Great post!
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