Tuesday, November 6, 2012

Modesty and Dressing More Femininely

I've been thinking a lot lately about dressing more femininely. I go through phases of wanting to wear skirts more often and it always seems to hit me in the fall. Why is this? I feel like it's so much harder to wear dresses and skirts in the colder months because I can never seem to get the shoes quite right with long skirts. There's a fine line between looking frumpy and cute, don't you think?


Sweater - Gap (Thrifted)
Skirt - Old Navy (Thrifted)
Scarf - Walmart
Shoes - Maurice's


I've also been praying and thinking a lot lately about the issue of modesty. I've always considered myself to be modest compared to most, but God has been challenging me in this area and I feel the need to reevaluate and raise my standards even more. 

What are your thoughts on modesty and dressing femininely?

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  1. I love your outfit! So cute! Thanks for sharing your thoughts on modesty as well. =)

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  2. Love your outfit Missy! You can do so much with skirts don't get discouraged. Skirts can sometimes even be warmer. Under a long skirt you can easily hide tights & leggings/flannels to keep warm. Stuff them into comfy shoes...and you look cute! ;)

    Iris♥
    The Blue Birdhouse

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    1. I'm still learning how to style skirts since I'm so used to pants. It does take some thought, but I'm getting there! :)

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    2. I wore a similar outfit like yours awhile back, was featured & now I am showing it on my blog : Warm Stripes- You Likes?

      Iris♥

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  3. You look adorable....totally feminine and modest. You are a beauty. :-)

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  4. I'm interested in your thoughts on how you can dress more modest.
    I see you in your cute little outfit above and think you look modest and fun.
    Is there a level beyond this that would be more modest?
    I honestly haven't thought about modesty too deeply. I don't feel I dress in a provocative way or show too much, so I don't think too deeply about it. but I'm curious about your thoughts on becoming more modest :)

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    1. Hi Shannon,

      Thanks so much for stopping by! I think the most enlightening way to think about what is modest is to talk to your husband. Men are sooo visual and even the slightest sight of certain areas of a woman's body can spiral out of control in their minds. The biggest thing I've changed is the cut of my shirts. I discovered that when bending forward and touching my toes in front of a mirror you could see A LOT of my chest and I definitely wasn't comfortable with that. Anyway, I'd be happy to discuss the issue more with you if you wanted!

      Blessings,
      Missy

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  5. Love your outfit by the way. I am noticing that the older I get the more modest I want to be, especially with my husband being a youth minister. I don't want to influence the young girls I come in contact with in a negative way. Great convicting post, I definitely need to be more aware of my modesty.

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    1. Hi Emily! What a great position you are in to be able to influence young women and be able to positively impact them for God's glory!

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  6. I'm where you are in the issue of skirt wearing and cold weather. I've been slowly adding skirts to my wardrobe and trying to figure out how to style them so as to not look frumpy. The shoe issue is so hard to figure out! I certainly don't want a closet full of them just to make it work. I currently have a pair of fuzzy boots that I'm currently able to get away with pairing with knee-length skirts/dresses and tights. For even colder weather I have a long denim skirt from Junees (AWESOME cute denim skirt resource) that I can pair with tights or sweater leggings (at Target). My hubby and I recently moved from the south to north, so this will be my first full winter to figure out true winter appropriate feminine attire. haha. My hope is that I can pair my fuzzy boots and long denim skirt with everything and then accessorize with scarves and whatnot from there. :)

    -Whitney @ www.revivinghomemaking.blogspot.com

    p.s. CUTE outfit, btw! I'm going to have to snag that idea from ya :)

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    1. Hi Whitney, it's so hard to find the right shoes! I'm learning that boots and flats look the best. The problem is that flats look so much better (in my opinion) without socks, but then your shoes stink and your feet are cold! lol Let me know if you figure anything out.

      Blessings,
      Missy

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  7. I think you boots look totally cute under your skirt in these pictures =)
    Much Love,
    L

    allglorious-within.blogspot.com

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  8. Love your outfit and love your heart in this post. I can identify with all that you have said and see the same things in myself. Like you, I usually see myself as more modest than many but that isn't the standard I'm called to. As I'm growing older I am finding myself wishing to be more and more modest. Thanks for this encouraging post!
    Blessings to you!
    ~Heather

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  9. That is a cute outfit! It can be so easy to think "well, I don't dress like ____ so I'm okay." Yet our goal needs to be glorifying God in our lives, including the way we dress. Thanks for the reminder!

    ahumblebumble.blogspot.com

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    1. Very true! We should set out standards by what God wants and not what others except from us.

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  10. As far as modesty is concerned I also am very concerned with this issue. I am a grandma of four beautiful granddaughters and want them to grow up respecting their bodies. I talked to a friend whose teenaged daughter wore a very revealing dress to a party and she said it was hard to find something cute that made her daughter feel good about herself. This is what I was hearing: "My daughter feels like she has to reveal her body in order to fit in." I have been very disturbed by that comment. My husband has even told me that men really do prefer women covered up. They really don't enjoy looking down a woman's shirt. So with this in mind I do strive for clothing that not only covers my body modestly, but also is not too tight. I think you have the right idea, your outfit is cute and modest at the same time. We need to teach our daughters that their bodies are sacred and temples of our spirits. With this attitude we can be more inclined to modesty. Thanks for taking on this subject.

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    1. Great wisdom Vikki! It is very sad the way young girls dress these days. Most of them just do it to fit in or get attention and they don't even realize that men are undressing them with their eyes all around them!! I agree we need to be talking to our daughters more on the subject!

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  11. I found you from Raising Homemakers Link-up. I have been hearing a lot lately about dressing more modestly. My high school daughter was so offended by Halloween costumes online that she decided to be Audrey Hepburn from Breakfast at Tiffany's. She was afraid that she may be required to wear a sweater because they are not allowed to wear sleeveless to school. People thought she looked so classic that appropriateness never even came up. I even got a call from someone after seeing her picture on my blog that told me she was determined to wear more dresses now. She blog at:
    http://www.thelostapron.com/2012/11/the-little-black-dress.html

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  12. Hey girlie! I linked up today too and I spotted you! I was like hey! there's Missy! Anyway, you look so cute! Love your outfit. :)

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  13. My church does not allow us to wear pants at all...because they believe women should not wear men's clothes...however I studied that verse and it is for homosexual people. My question to you is..Are you looking to be more femine because of that verse or just soemthing that you would like to change? Thanks!

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    1. Hi Shirley! Thanks for stopping by! I do not personally believe that the bible commands women to wear skirts. I feel like each woman should dress in a way that honors God and the men around them. I still wear pants and do not plan to stop, because I feel they are modest. I hope this helps!

      Missy

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  14. I am new to your blog and so glad I found it, wonderful post!

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  15. I'm dropping in from Teach Me Tuesdays and I just want to say you look super cute! I'm in the process of switching over to all-skirts. The shoes in the winter are the hardest for me too! It's not that wintery here where I live just yet though so for everyday-wear, cute flats and my boots have been getting me by. I wear dressier outfits to church on Sundays and then I can easily look good with my go-to brown or black heels. I'm getting a lot of use out of my warmer sweater-tights too! I'm your newest email follower! ;-)

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  16. Great post. And great outfit. I agree that you can look cute and well not in style because in style is definately not modest or feminine. But cute and stylish maybe that is it w/o looking frumpy. I think that we do need to consider how our dress affects males other than our husbands. Unfortunately that is not the way the world or the designers or retailers want us to dress. I noticed a couple of your items were thrifted. I am seeing more and more that thrift buying when it comes to clothing is the only way to find anything that is appropriate to wear.
    I enjoyed your post. Thank for sharing your thoughts.
    Have a Blessed Thanksgiving.

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